The most important thing she’d learned over the years was that there was no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one. -Unknown
I’ve been reading the book, Birthing From Within
, in preparation for the upcoming birth of my second baby boy. There are many wonderful suggestions I love in this book, but one in particular spoke to me recently. Author, Pam England, talks about how our culture is very baby centered when it comes to birth, and we’ve lost the spiritual connection to the mother.
With the first pregnancy, we are thrown several showers, given many gifts and everything is so new and exciting. This time around, although still new and exciting, I’m so much busier with my toddler and time just seems to fly by much more quickly. There have been no parties, showers or celebrations planned – until a few weeks ago.
I was talking with my mom and sister about wanting to have some sort of recognition for this baby and birth, and that’s when our “Celebration of Motherhood Afternoon Tea Party” was born. (Thank you mom and Lins!)
We invited many of our special women friends to come celebrate being a mother, to honor their own mothers, and to take time to recognize our new little baby who will be born in the next few weeks.
Each woman was asked to bring a bead, along with a quote, blessing or story, about being a mother. These beads will be strung together to create a special mother necklace for me! The beads I received were absolutely beautiful – some hand-made, some natural stones, all with special meaning and love.
The group of women was intimate and we all shared stories, tears, and laughter. My mom opened the celebration by reading a poem.
Then we all acknowledged how nice it is bringing women together, especially mothers, to simply enjoy being present and taking time to honor the cycle of life.
We shared how my mom’s mother passed away in March and how I had the privilege of being by her side when she took her last breath. I held my grandma’s hand, while pregnant, reflecting that here my baby has yet to take his first breath, and my grandmother will soon take her last
For those of you who are pregnant, or know someone who is, I encourage you to throw a special celebration honoring birth and mothers in your life! It’s so special, memorable and will fill up your heart (and your babies) beyond measure. (This type of celebration doesn’t have to be reserved just for pregnant mamas!)
Ideas on How to Host “A Celebration of Motherhood” Tea Party
*Create an invitation inviting the special women in your life
*Invite everyone to bring a bead with quote or blessing (be clear that no other gifts are necessary)
*Provide small snacks, desserts, hot and cold tea
*Have a bowl of questions that your guests can read aloud. This is a great way to get the conversation and sharing going. Example questions: What was your favorite meal your mom made when you were a kid? Share a memorable or funny story about your mom. What was one thing you learned about yourself when you became a mother?
*After eating, sit in a circle and give your guests a chance to share their bead, blessing or quote. Have them string their bead or place it in a small bowl and pass it to the next person.
*End by giving each woman a small gift – we gave out yellow roses – a symbol of friendship, joy and wellness.
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