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Live Freely TV Episode #2 – Living an Imperfect Life

Live Freely TV Episode 2 from Shannon Kinney on Vimeo.

I was having one of those kind of days.

You know the one…where everything feels like it’s going wrong.

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Watch Episode #2 of Live Freely TV as I talk about finding the courage to live an imperfect life.

CLICK HERE TO VIEW.

 

 

Wishing you an imperfectly, beautiful day!

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grab your coffee or tea and let’s chat about living freely!

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(Below I’m announcing my new video series: Live Freely TV!)

I’m sitting on my back glass porch (my favorite room in the house). The woods and grey sky surrounds me. I have my coffee and two boys by my side. One boy is doing a puzzle in between complaining that we never have anything he wants to eat. The other boy is connecting-the-dots in his workbook – still in his jammies and with what he calls, “wake up hair”. (The other youngest boy is still sleeping after being wide away for two hours in the middle of the night – just talking and laughing to himself.)

I had my morning walk around the lake. It’s something I look so forward to now – my favorite way to get grounded for a day with the kids.

I’m feeling good.

But the last few days…
Well, that’s another story.

I had been feeling…stuck. Frustrated, tired, angry, confused…and just plain stuck.

I felt like a car with a flat tire. All these great places I want to go, but can’t seem to get there. (Hence, all my recent posts about patience!)

That happens, as I know you know.
Same days we feel great.
Some days we don’t.
Some times we feel like “we got this”.
Other times we don’t want to get out of bed.

That’s the nature of life, I guess.

And I think it helps when we stop labeling our experience as “good” or “bad” or “right” or “wrong”.

It just IS.

This is my life.
This is your life.

It is what it is.

Accept it.
Change it.
Embrace it.
Celebrate it.

And remember…some days flow and some days you just feel stuck.

Reflect on your own life today, with kindness. Let go of labeling each moment and instead – without judgment – simply observe what you are feeling and gently remind yourself to get back to this moment.

No matter where you are in your life, _this_ moment is right where you need to be.

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Today, I’m announcing my new video series:

LIVE FREELY TV

Live Freely TV Episode 1: Embracing Patience from Shannon Kinney on Vimeo.

I’m creating these video podcasts to inspire us to awaken to the new possibilities in our unlimited lives. I want to bring you together with other free spirits from around the world as we share what it means to live a life full of purpose, peace, contentment and joy.

So grab your cup of coffee or tea, and let’s chat about living freely!

CLICK HERE TO VIEW Live Freely TV Episode #1

Embracing Patience

Follow my Live Freely TV channel to watch future episodes – click HERE.

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PERISCOPE!

Have you heard of it? It’s pretty new to me. And I’m excited to give it a try. Basically, you can sign-up for a free account, and follow people (like Twitter), so that you can watch LIVE videos they record from their phone. It’s so cool!

I want to give it a try. SO…go to Periscope, sign-up and let’s follow each other!!

Then, I’ll announce in a week or so when I’ll be recording my first LIVE video.  We can connect LIVE together!! (If you miss the LIVE broadcast, the video is available 24 hours after it first aired.)

Find me on Periscope @aFreeSpiritLife.

Email me and let me know your @name and I’ll follow you, too!

sometimes you need to freak out

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Patience is waiting.  Not passively waiting.  That is laziness.  But to keep going when the going is hard and slow – that is patience.

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In my last post I shared some inspiration on staying present when you want to freak out.

Today, I want to remind you of this:

SOMETIMES YOU NEED TO FREAK OUT.

The freak out moment is there to teach you.
Let it out. And listen to it.

Your freak out moment may come in the form of worrisome thoughts that keeps you up at night. Your freak out moment may be a migraine or a deep feeling of sadness or complete irritability at everything and everyone. Your freak out moment may be a lot of kicking and screaming. Your freak out moment could be obsessing over past regrets rather than moving on. Or maybe your freak out moment looks like inaction – where you feel like you just don’t care anymore.

LISTEN.

Find some stillness.
Sit quietly.
Close your eyes.

Take a deep breath in and let it all out.

Notice how your body feels. Where do you feel some tension? What feelings come up from your heart? What is your mind saying?

Take another deep breath in and out. RELAX. It’s all going to be ok.

SOMETIMES YOU NEED TO FREAK OUT.

Because that freak out moment is your spirit telling you things are a little out of whack. (By the way, it happens to us all.) There is something that needs your attention. Don’t ignore it. Pay attention to it. Become an observer of your thoughts. Check-in with your body. Let those feelings out.

And once you make the connection to why you are freaking out and what you sense and feel needs to be done about it…then, my love, ease into the patience, because now that you know, – that you are deeply listening and paying attention – then you will soon know exactly what you need to do next.

In your own time.

With tenderness.
With kindness.
With love.

With…patience.

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Slow down:

Do you rush through your day? Patience comes when you practice slowing down your pace. Savor the moment rather than rush through it. See how it feels to walk slower, breath slower, eat slower, and move slower.

Play:

Kids know how to play. We forget what playing feels like when we become adults. When’s the last time you did something that had no other purpose except – for fun? Be silly. Have a dance party. Mess around with paint or jump in the rain puddles. Kick a ball around, blow bubbles or swing. Being playful helps you be less serious and allows you to practice the patience that is needed when you aren’t producing something, being “productive” or checking something off the never-ending list.

Laugh:

Humor helps you relax. Laughing lightens your spirit. It brings you in touch with joy, and when you are feeling joyful, you feel more alive and free. There is a letting go and acceptance that comes with laughter, and that’s what being patient is all about.

Stay Open:

Life twists and turns. It’s ever changing and we never know what’s really going to happen day-to-day. Keep an open mind and heart so that you can be flexible with those changes. Going with the flow helps you soften when changes outside of your control happen. Ahhh…staying open to change invites patience to take hold.

Connect to your Breath:

Feeling constricted? Stressed? Overwhelmed with your present situation? STOP.
Take in your deepest breath. Then slowly, release. Let your breath out, along with any tension you feel. Nothing is more present than your own breath. Connect to your breath and feel a deep sense of presence and patience settle over you.

Get Moving:

Walk. Run. Swim. Paint. Exercise. Find some form of movement that you enjoy – and try to do it every day. Nothing helps release those stressful – I want it now – feelings than movement. Give that impatient energy a place to go and get moving.

Be Still:

We are always on the go. And before long this leaves us feeling out of touch and disconnected to what truly matters most. Give yourself a moment of stillness. (How about in the morning before your day gets going, or in the evening right before bed?) Sit quietly so you can get in touch with your true feelings. Like I mentioned above, this will help you step out of your head and into your heart so that you can discover the source of your freak out feelings. Stillness allows you to tap into the inner peace (and patience) that is always there.

Journal:

Writing in a journal gives those reoccurring thoughts a safe place to go. It gets them out of your head. It also helps you organize your thoughts – so that you can feel more at ease with a plan or outline that may form from writing it out. And that creates space for clarity. When you are feeling lost or confused or frustrated about your life in this moment, get those honest feelings out on paper. You’ll be amazed at the power journaling can have – and a journal is the most patient of all friends!

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Look what’s coming ~ Live Freely TV!!  More info soon…

registration for Laugh Play Love now open!

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Registration for my NEW e-course, Laugh Play Love, is NOW open.  Join us and invite more laughter, playfulness and love into your daily life.

And not to worry – the course will be up for the next 3 months, so you will have PLENTY of time to dive in at your own pace.

So what are you waiting for?

Enroll for Laugh Play Love by visiting HERE.

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when it rains it floods (& new e-course!)

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The sun does eventually come out again and once the clouds part the landscape is more vibrant and alive.

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You know the saying, when it rains it pours?  Well in my case the past few weeks, when it rains it floods.

The Sunday before last, we woke up to a flooded basement.  On the positive side, there were only a few inches of water and all that got ruined was the carpet. Part of our basement is the laundry room and storage and the majority of the space is refinished – it’s where the kids play, where we watch movies and where my husband’s office is.  It’s one of the only areas in this house that we (my husband did all the work) fully fixed up (in the three years we’ve lived here).

The other positive is that since we’ve been on a “reduce clutter, create space” kick over the last several years, we don’t have any boxes in our storage room, the storage we do have is in plastic bins and everything is off the floor.  Other than some blankets that were waiting to be washed, nothing else had to be pulled out of the water.

The carpet excavation company came that same day, ripped out the carpets, left us with fans and handled other precautions throughout the week.  Everything has dried up nicely; the basement foundation is in great shape and no mold.  Even the custom cabinets can stay. Woo hoo.

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Playing in the basement before “the flood”.

All in all we lucked out.  Or we were somewhat prepared.  And I think that’s what I learned from this experience.  The importance of preparation – clearing out the stuff you no longer need or like having a good insurance plan.  The importance of not being attached to stuff – it’s all just stuff and in the end – it’s there for a short bit and then it goes away.  The importance of having an emergency fund – because there’s still a deductible that you have to pay when things happen – and things always happen. And the importance of having a sense of humor – because sometimes if you can’t laugh about it you might as well go insane.

Some of the other things that happened during the flood:  our riding mower died (had to put more money towards a new one), my husband found out some health warnings (in addition to some we found out a few months ago) and a family friend and former co-worker passed away.  A lot at once.

Did I feel defeated?

Absolutely.

Did I cry?

A time or two.

Did I drop the kids off at my mom’s one morning just so I could pick up my favorite food and go sit in a dark theater watching a movie (I LOVE going to movies alone, by the way)?

Oh, yes I did and it was awesome.

Have I felt unsettled?

Yep.  All the toys that usually have a place in the basement have been all over the house – Legos on the dining room table, library books on the back porch, train set thrown across the living room floor.  My husband had to move his computer to my art room table.  Feeling a bit…cramped.

Do I crave order?

YES.

Am I feeling completely grateful that I have another day on this earth?

A MILLION TIMES for sure.

I have gone through a wave of emotions.  And if I let my mind run crazy with “what if’s” and “how are we going to” and “why me” and “will we ever get ahead” thoughts – then I probably would let the feelings of overwhelm completely consume me.

But I can’t.

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Because here’s what I’ve learned about life so far:
* Everything changes.  The good times, the bad times – they come and go.
* Going with the flow and staying flexible in the midst of changes just feels better.
* Letting go of the past, being in the present moment, while preparing for the future makes the ride more enjoyable.
* Asking for help, finding support and receiving that love is just as powerful as giving.
* Laughter helps.
* Dancing helps.
* Relaxing, breathing and lightening up all help.
* Sitting alone in a dark theater watching a great movie totally helps.
* And focusing on the gratitude reminds you that even in the midst of the chaos, the storm, the floods…you have your breath, you have much to be grateful for AND there really is beauty once the storm clears.
There’s always an opportunity alongside the challenge – even if it’s hard to see it at the time.  The storm will clear again.

When you are moving through the flood, don’t give up.  Your life is too precious and your gifts are needed in the world.

We need you.

So get some rest when you need to.  Drink more water.  Eat well and nourish your soul.  Ask for help and FULLY RECEIVE the goodness that others are so open and willing to give you.

LAUGH more.
PLAY more.
And LOVE your life along the way…

(See below to learn about my new e-course – Registration is now open!)

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This summer, I’m going on a journey to awaken creativity…and I want you to join me.

I’ve created a new course and I’m excited to announce it to you – my Free Spirit Life family. (By the way, you can take this course even if it’s not summer in your part of the world!)

 

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I’ve been busy…filling this course with rich content to help you connect with your inner heart and explore seven vital areas of your life at your own pace. There’s no timeline, no pressure. Just great lessons you can savor and enjoy over and over.

There’s something special here for both beginners and graduates of Inside Out. You’ll find the balance and connection you need to create a life where you can freely laugh, play and love.

Please click HERE to learn more about Laugh Play Love.
I hope you’ll join me. Let’s fill this summer with joy!

when you feel like you don’t belong

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You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.

~ Maya Angelou

I went to a party recently and old feelings of not being “part of the group” came up.

Do you ever feel that way?

Have you ever been in a group but feel like you don’t really belong?  Or that you are on the outside looking in? Or that you just don’t fit in?

Those are the feelings that came up after trying to talk with someone at the party who puts off this vibe that she doesn’t want to talk to me.  This wasn’t the first time I’ve tried talking with her and I leave the conversation feeling the same way every time.

My old self may have obsessed about this experience with thoughts like, What is wrong with me?  Why doesn’t she like me?

It felt quite liberating that when those old feelings did indeed come up, I was able to laugh (not instantly, but soon after) and remind myself, Shan, not everyone needs to like you.  And just because she doesn’t want to talk to you doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you.

I was happy to see that rather than obsessing about it for days and wondering What can I do to make her like me?, I was able to realize that it’s not me, it’s her thing.  I was able to let those negative thoughts go and stay grounded and kind towards myself (and her).  Instead of letting my mind call her names or talk badly about myself, I simply became aware of the emotional trigger.  Old feelings of “not being good enough” crept in, and yet, I let those feelings come – and here’s the big thing – I let those feelings go.

So often we experience highs and lows in our day.  We meet a variety of people.  Some we click with and some we don’t.  And it’s so easy to focus on the lows or the difficult people.  The highs feel good.  When you are feeling great and you are in your comfort zone or surrounded by your peeps – ah – easy.  But when you are feeling insecure or find yourself in a new experience – ugh – it can be tough sometimes.

It sucks when you feel like you don’t “fit in”.

It hurts when it feels like others are deliberately excluding you.

Making assumptions about what the other person is thinking or feeling doesn’t help the situation. It’s good to speak up when you need to, especially when you want clarification or find yourself in a situation where someone isn’t treating you kindly.

When we worry about stuff that happens and can’t LET IT GO…that takes up mental and emotional space (and often times physical – look around your house – what stuff are you still holding onto?). The space in our minds or in our hearts (or in our homes) gets filled up with negative thinking and old habits (or junk) that ultimately creates blocks (and dust).  It becomes quite draining.

Those mental and emotional blocks depletes our vital energy.

Stop worrying about what others think of you.  You won’t always feel like you belong.  And that’s ok. You will find your tribe.  In the meantime, don’t change yourself to “fit in” but rather, be yourself.  And be kind to yourself along the way.

Let it go.

Let it go.

Let it go.

Becoming yourself is part of the journey.  Embrace who you are.  Who you really are.  You are complete and whole and imperfect and that’s what makes you…YOU.

Your Personal Reflection:

Are you wasting your time and energy obsessing about the past?  Or worrying about what others think of you?  What negative thoughts or old habits are depleting your vital energy?  Take a moment to observe something in your life that you are ready to let go of.  Take a deep breath.  Exhale.  Close your eyes.  Smile softly.

And remember, you are enough.  
It’s time to let your inner beauty out into the world.

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learning how to shed self-doubt

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This is me, making my latest video, while the kids watched an episode of Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood.  One take, unedited and thankfully I had the stuffed sheep as my sit-in so I could set the focus!  It’s all a part of being a mom

Are you in need of some quiet or inspiration or a boost to your energy? Take a few minutes to watch the video I made just for YOU.

In the video I share part of my story, what brought me to this moment and why I created A Free Spirit Life and Inside Out: A Creative Adventure of Self-Discovery.

I share how I’m learning to shed outward distractions, negative thinking and old habits. I share how I let self-doubt grip me for years. And how I learned to release those inner fears so I stopped believing “I wasn’t good enough” and started embracing a life that is truly unlimited.

You can overcome the obstacles keeping you stuck.
You can learn to embrace the mess and imperfections.
You can find more joy, peace, and happiness in your daily life.
You can live more connected to your intuition and creativity.
You can learn to trust and follow your heart and how to find your inner courage.
You can learn how to break free of fear so you can leap towards a bold, abundant life.

I’m still learning.
I’m still stumbling and fumbling and tripping along the way.
Let’s do it together.

Watch the video to learn more of what has helped change my life from one gripped with fear, to one that’s like…what the hell…let’s go for it.

What is going really well in your life?
What are the habits that keep repeating?

What are you ready to break free from?

Email me and share a little of YOUR story.  I want to hear from you!

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you can change your life

Maybe you want to get rid of the clutter in your life.
Maybe you want to connect to other like-minded women.
Maybe you want to make space in your busy life to nourish your creativity.
Maybe you want to invite more peace, simplicity and ease into your day.
Maybe you want more stillness and less busy.
Maybe you want to find time to do what you love.
Maybe you want to feel more joy.
Maybe you want to nurture your inner dreams, or be more present, or live with intention and purpose.

Whatever it is, YOU CAN change your life.

Start today.

Join us for Inside Out: A Creative Adventure of Self-Discovery!

This 5-week online experience has helped hundreds of women face their fears so they could find the courage to live a more authentic, connected, abundant life.
To learn more, visit here.

Questions? Email me and I’m so happy to chat more.
Class begins January 26th!

Winners Announced:

Thanks to those of you who took the time to share my new Being a Mom music video!

The winners of my random drawing for 3 spots for the next session of Inside Out are:

Debbie Hines, Jessica Naccari and Karen Skelton!

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how to find peace this holiday season

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I want you to be everything that’s you, deep at the center of your being.

~ Confucious

Thank you for being here!  I hope you are enjoying some nice family time and a happy holiday weekend (for those of you who celebrate Thanksgiving).

Not sure how you feel about Black Friday and Cyber Monday, but I’m kind of tired of the emails, the commercials and the ads that are fighting for my attention and trying to get me to buy, buy, buy, more, more, more!

There is just so much NOISE out there
And sometimes, I find that the constant distractions in the world make me feel cloudy, stressed, confused and even lost. Do you ever feel this way?

Life throws a lot at us. It’s quite easy to get knocked off center again and again and again. And I’m seeing that part of the practice in mindful living is learning how to get back there, because it’s in this peaceful, present moment space where your pure love, JOY and contentment are always within reach.

Not outside…but within.

So what exactly does it mean to find center?

Your very essence – who you really are – is at your center. When you find center, it’s like going to the place where you feel at home. It’s when you feel most present. It’s when you feel in the flow. It’s where you feel…peace.

Making a connection each day to this inner place will remind you what matters most in your life.
When you get distracted and stressed and overwhelmed, it’s important to have awareness of your center – and know how to get back there.

Whether you are full of joy during the holidays, or they bring you dread, it’s all too easy to get swept away by outward pressures to be more, do more, buy more, and give more. When we fight feelings of not doing or being enough, it’s almost inevitable we’ll end up over-committing or over-eating or over-spending to feel better in the short term.

Finding center and remembering what matters most is about being a part of life, but not getting consumed by it.

We can go to the mall or buy gifts for friends and family, without spending our grocery money. We can create a “to do” list and set intentions to make gifts, but we can also be realistic that we can’t do it all. We can indulge in sweets and the fun food of the season without bursting at the seams and feeling sick afterwards. We can volunteer and be of service without sacrificing our own needs. We can say “no” and let go of “shoulds” and feel ok with not over-doing-it, because we come from a grounded place of love and peace (not a confusing place led by regret, worry and fear).

This is what happens when you stay connected to center.

The more you become aware of your center, and recognize what knocks you off or triggers you, the easier it is to get back to a more grounded, compassionate place. It’s this connection to center that helps you feel an inner peace, when the anxiety and overwhelm creep in. It’s this connection to center that allows you to feel more calm, even when the outer world is seemingly moving at lightening speed.

It’s this connection to center that reminds you how to love and how to be kind – to others AND to yourself.
Be kind to yourself this holiday season.

Eliminate the noise.
Slow down.
Find stillness.
Connect to your center.
Free your spirit.
Love yourself.
Change your life.

I appreciate you deeply…

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Interested in learning tools & techniques on how to stay connected to your center?

Join us for Inside Out: A Creative Adventure of Self-Discovery!

Learn how to listen to and trust your intuition, and how to cultivate the courage you need to live out your inner dreams so you can be yourself and create a life you love living every single day.
Visit HERE for all the details.

You will receive a FREE Inside Out audio book at the end of our course just for signing up!

(Gift certificates available and past Inside Out grads get a discount.)

i love happy art journaling challenge (& podcast #3)

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I had an amazing day yesterday.

I spent the morning at the farmer’s market with my boys, then took my 3-year-old to gymnastics. Both boys took a long nap at the same time (which never happens) and I listened to a podcast and got really inspired about some new creative business ideas.

Later, the kids played together after we picked up my 6-year-old from school. I made butternut squash soup and roasted beet salad for dinner.

Everyone was in a great mood.

Of course, it’s not always like this. But yesterday, everything just seemed to flow.

After dinner we went on a family walk in the woods and around our neighborhood lake. I was walking a little faster then the boys and at one point I just stopped to watch them. The sun was setting. The lake was still. The temperature was perfect. The baby on my back was waving to his daddy and brothers and in that moment I felt completely elated. Peaceful, really.

It was a moment of pure bliss…joy…HAPPINESS.

And then I thought, “I never want this moment to end.”

For a few seconds my mind started freaking out as it tried to grasp time and space.

I caught myself.
Took a breath.
Returned to the moment.
Simply watched the boys walk up the hill.
Listened to the sweet sound of their voices.
Felt complete gratitude in my heart.
And soaked it up.

My mind tried to hold on to what felt like a perfect moment to keep it forever.

But we know that’s impossible. Life is ever changing. It’s all so temporary. So to try to grasp and cling and hold on to any moment sets us up for potential sadness, disappointment or anxiety.

The practice is to see the happy in the every day moments of life.

To appreciate them. To feel them deeply. To not miss all the beauty and joy that is happening around us all the time.

 

Life is a gift.

YOUR life is a gift.

To celebrate this gift called life, I’m hosting a challenge this October to inspire us all to slow down and see the happy in our crazy, busy days.
Please join me for the FREE I Love Happy Art Journaling Challenge for Moms (moms-to-be and grandmothers, too) in October.

Together, for two weeks, we will celebrate the special every day moments of happy in our day, while we nurture our creativity and connect more deeply with our intuition and inner wisdom.

VISIT HERE to watch the new Mothering with heART video podcast #3 for more details about this fun, free art journaling challenge!

To join the challenge, click the link below:

Yes! Sign me up to join moms from around the world for the I Love Happy Art Journaling Challenge!

Hug your loved ones.
Stop gripping the past.
Stop reaching for the future.

And see your happy right here and NOW.

I appreciate you.